Post by Sheila on Feb 16, 2014 1:31:05 GMT -5
Dear Justus,
My boyfriend of 7months and I have been getting along very well and seem to have the best relationship. I'm very happy with him. He has 2 children from 2 different women from prior relationships. He says he only communicate with their mothers unless it's dealing with the children. Both his daughters are 13yrs old and birthdays are a couple months apart. He also has told me it's been over 3yrs since he's been with either of the mothers.
When he was dating these women, he was living a double life with each. Listening to him I figured out this was not his first time cheating and making his women feel as if they were his one and only. He says he has grown up since then and realise that he only needs one woman in his life, me. And is ready to fully committ and marry.
Justus, I believe we all have made mistakes and poor choices so it was second nature to continue dating him and give US a try.
Yesterday he needed to pick me up around the same time he needed to pick up one of his daughters. I thought it would be great to meet her but he came up with this excuse to be late while he picked her up, took her home, and then came back for me. He said he didn't want her mother to be nosey or act up so he wanted to keep the peace.
Justus?-If it's been over 3yrs since he's been with either of the other ladies, why is there still an issue for him to date others? He has really hurt my feelings and I'm wondering if he is up to his old games. Maybe he is still screwing one of them? Or both? I must admit, he did come straight back to get me and was late no more than 20min but I am feeling so insecure and wondering if I'm being judgemental based on his past OR if he might be doing something.
Usually I'm pretty good at smelling fishy business but he is always with me or on the phone. I can't say I've seen any inclination of him spending time with anyone else but me. But if he once fooled 2 women (and their families) who lived in the same city, I don't want to be a fool.
What do you think I should do or if I should do anything??
My boyfriend of 7months and I have been getting along very well and seem to have the best relationship. I'm very happy with him. He has 2 children from 2 different women from prior relationships. He says he only communicate with their mothers unless it's dealing with the children. Both his daughters are 13yrs old and birthdays are a couple months apart. He also has told me it's been over 3yrs since he's been with either of the mothers.
When he was dating these women, he was living a double life with each. Listening to him I figured out this was not his first time cheating and making his women feel as if they were his one and only. He says he has grown up since then and realise that he only needs one woman in his life, me. And is ready to fully committ and marry.
Justus, I believe we all have made mistakes and poor choices so it was second nature to continue dating him and give US a try.
Yesterday he needed to pick me up around the same time he needed to pick up one of his daughters. I thought it would be great to meet her but he came up with this excuse to be late while he picked her up, took her home, and then came back for me. He said he didn't want her mother to be nosey or act up so he wanted to keep the peace.
Justus?-If it's been over 3yrs since he's been with either of the other ladies, why is there still an issue for him to date others? He has really hurt my feelings and I'm wondering if he is up to his old games. Maybe he is still screwing one of them? Or both? I must admit, he did come straight back to get me and was late no more than 20min but I am feeling so insecure and wondering if I'm being judgemental based on his past OR if he might be doing something.
Usually I'm pretty good at smelling fishy business but he is always with me or on the phone. I can't say I've seen any inclination of him spending time with anyone else but me. But if he once fooled 2 women (and their families) who lived in the same city, I don't want to be a fool.
What do you think I should do or if I should do anything??