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Post by PuddinTame on Jan 12, 2014 22:36:27 GMT -5
Justus, Justus, Justus,
The last time I was on a forum I got banned for telling the truth. I see ur motto is, "The Truth May Hurt BUT At Least You'll Know." I don't like it but it's kinda catchy and true. I'm interested to see how "TRUTHFUL" you are so let me just get to my point. I have known this cutey for a minute. In fact, it's been about 2 1/2 years. I knew I was going to holla at her the moment I laid eyes on her. She has a smile and some kind of demeanor that can make a Scrooge blush and smile. But this chick is a headache!! Yeah she God-Fearing but she confused in her role as a woman. Let's not talk about what she feels as a wife. We dated for a second but neither one of us could handle it. She was stubborn and ignorant and I was steadfast and inculcating. I had little patience too. As the man, I tried to teach her how to be submissive and obey me but noooo, she had to be difficult. She kept insisting how she have a say. I let her know that yeah, you do but I, as the man, have the LAST say so there was no need to hear her thoughts. So simple! I know that sounds a bit harsh but the reality of it at that time was my mind was made up. I didn't choose to hear anything more. I've always been straight up and direct and she had a problem with it. Yet she asks for honesty. My problem is, I like her. She does have potential. As a man, we have plenty of fish in the sea, but to find a rare one who meets our expectation and more is not often. I want to pursue her again but I don't want to lose my hair trying. What do you suggest Justus?
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Post by A Woman of WORTH on Jan 13, 2014 1:08:16 GMT -5
Are you serious? You sound controlling.
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Post by TG from MA on Jan 13, 2014 3:15:24 GMT -5
Oh this man sounds like a fool! Poor girl, I'm glad she got away. You seem like you would have beaten her to conform to your ancient way of thinking. Jerk!
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Post by JustUs on Jan 13, 2014 3:17:05 GMT -5
Hello PuddinTame,
I suggest you keep fishing because you will have difficulty finding someone in this century unless they came from a third world country. A man and a woman compliment one another. If she is truly part of you, deriving from your ribs then you should treat her as such. Wouldn't you want respect? There may be times when you may not be on your 'A' game and she will make decisions with both your best interest. We all know Gods order; Lord Jesus, man, woman but you got it all wrong. The Message Bible says it best in 1 Peter 3:7, "The same goes for you husbands: Be good husbands to your wives. Honor them, delight in them. As women they lack some of your advantages. But in the new life of God’s grace, you’re equals. Treat your wives, then, as equals so your prayers don’t run aground." With any thinking contrary to the Word of God shows disrespect. As for your lady friend, maybe you scared her away with your prehistoric way of thinking. What are you 2000 years old? If you please your partner then they will usually reciprocate the love. A hard answer will more than likely cause a hard response. Start by remembering that.
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Post by H.Rhimes on Jan 13, 2014 4:10:09 GMT -5
Maybe that is the type of woman he needs, one from a 3rd world country or someone trying to get a US Passport. He aint gonna get no American chick thinking like that (and you got some desperate women out here) nobody going to put up with it!
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Post by PuddinTame on Jan 13, 2014 18:00:39 GMT -5
Justus.....
There are a few things I want to point out of your response that I see you are confused on so let me elaborate. 1.Yes, a man and a woman compliment each other. 2.Yes, a man should treat his woman with the respect she is due (deserve) and 3.Yes, when I am unable to make a quality decision, I would expect her to know my will and intentions well enough to make decisions for our best interest too. I never said I don't agree with those things. I do. Man don't just choose ANY woman, he chooses the one that best compliments him and one he know he can train accordingly. Nobody wants a rowdy ill mannered clown for a spouse. 2 Do an employer asks his employee what to do and not to do? No, he demands the work to be done and it's expected for the employee to do it. Why? because of their status. If's not a form of disrespect, its actually respect. The employee respects the position of the employer and does his job. so simple. 3. When I cannot be there to make a decision.. (Im using the employer / employee example again cause it's simple to understand for you and your readers). When a customer asks an employee a question about their products, the employee should be well trained to know the correct answer even if the employer is not their to answer the question himself. That is what we call, trained. See, what Im saying is so simple yet folks don't like to hear truth.
As for cutie, just like many women, she has been fooled into following the "new age" doctrine that has been developing to go against God's original design. No I ain't 2000yrs old but my heavenly Father is that and beyond. He wrote the all time best seller and it is still used today, look it up and read it sometime. It's called the Holy Bible. Now what??
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Post by TruthTeller on Jan 13, 2014 20:50:30 GMT -5
You sound just as foolish as your screen name!
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Post by Whitney on Jan 13, 2014 22:25:36 GMT -5
PuddinTame, A WIFE is not an "employee" and the HUSBAND is not the "Employer." Wrong example. The union of a husband and wife are ONE. They make decisions together not based on what ONE of them says. You say your Father is the all time best seller? Well you need to pick up his book and READ it because you're confused!
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Post by babara on Jan 14, 2014 6:21:03 GMT -5
OMG! Is this real? PuddinTame I understand what you're trying to say but you're coming off wrong. It's not sometimes WHAT you say, it's HOW you say it. Right now, you're coming across condescending!
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Post by JustUs on Jan 14, 2014 14:26:52 GMT -5
Hello PuddinTame,
I am a little confused, are we arguing the fact of the Bible teachings when it come to how a husband should treat his wife or are we debating how you should sell your ideology to this female you want to have and impress? Because if you got the formula that is working already then there is no need for JustUs services. But you are feeling defeated and baffled. My advice for you is to either find someone that will buy your concepts or belief system because two and half years has been long enough to sell yourself, it should be obvious by now she's not interested in buying your product.
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Post by Darin on Jan 14, 2014 16:16:29 GMT -5
Listen Bro, You don't need to pursue this chick. In fact, sit back and Ill take her on and show you how a real man of God works. When a "Man" steps correctly, a woman doesn't do because she was told but because she delights in pleasing her man. -Real Man Lesson 101-
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Post by PuddinTame on Jan 15, 2014 18:30:17 GMT -5
ok Ok OK,
Justus I understand you're confused. My question was indeed about the girl. I just responded to some of your comments made in response to my original post. Yea, it's been about 2 1/2yrs of knowing her but not that time in pursuing her. We split on heated emotions thru conversations so knowing I get her aroused lets me know I have her attention. I believe opposites do attract and when there is a strong attraction for someone, even though the two bump heads, with God in the midst, the relationship can survive. My question was what do you suggest in my pursuit for her when having a better understanding of our "mindset." As to the "OTHERS" who have something to say, you all are ignorant and know not what you speak of. One said I sound "controlling?"- No, I'm just blunt and honest about what I want. Hypocrites tend to not say what's on their mind but expect others to know it. Another said I sound like I beat women- How so? Especially knowing I ain't NEVER laid an harm's hand on a woman. You ASSumed. You know what they call those who ASSume? To another,... Condescending means to show feelings of superiority; If you feel that way then you FELT some type of way that made you feel I belittled you.If you're offended, then don't read and respond to posts. And to that last guy, real man of God......you Seem to know the rules of the game huh? But here's a question?....why You still out trying to "find" a woman then? Why ain't you taken already? something still ain't working right for you BRO!
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Post by Emily on Jan 16, 2014 1:04:06 GMT -5
Hi PuddinTame,
Unlike the others, I hope you win your lady. I hope you two fall in love and both of you be happy together. If not her, then I hope you find someone you can freely love and she loves you back JUST the way you ARE! I have just one concern. From reading your posts, you seem kind of upset. As if you're angry at the world for something. It's fine to be blunt but you seem to take things offensively quickly. Have you ever considered counseling? Maybe there are some deep rooted issues you might need to address. Other than that, be blessed my friend.
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Post by JustUs on Jan 16, 2014 12:20:43 GMT -5
Hello PuddinTame,
Thanks for reassuring what we already knew. Scroll to view the responses to your question and there you will find your answer. Though enlighten by all of your comments, the answer hasn't changed.
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Post by Dee on Jan 16, 2014 21:28:19 GMT -5
Dude might have issues..... whoever did it, did it raw to the core! LOL!
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