Post by Shallow on Jan 16, 2014 16:34:38 GMT -5
Hi Justus,
I am currently dabbling in the online dating scene – not to worry, I’m careful! However, I recently began chatting with a man who didn’t have any photos on his online profile.
I am not a shallow person, however, I don’t like not knowing who I’m talking to, even if it’s just a single photo. So I asked him to send me one, assuring him it wasn’t for shallow reasons, just that I felt safer having a face to the name. He sent me a photo….
To put things simply, I am less than attracted. I don’t know what to do! I’m not shallow: extra weight, slightly receding hairline, a gap between the teeth…I’m not going to eliminate someone based on those things – never. I am not perfect, I have physical flaws as well.
But I am a firm believer that there has to be some attraction in order to even consider a relationship with someone. Am I a horrible person? And more importantly, how do I go about not being a complete jerk? I already let him know I received them, so it’s going to be awkward to not respond, plus, I’ll feel terrible knowing that he has at least an idea I’m not responding based on his looks.
Just thinking that makes me feel like the worst person in the world. Can you please help me?
I am currently dabbling in the online dating scene – not to worry, I’m careful! However, I recently began chatting with a man who didn’t have any photos on his online profile.
I am not a shallow person, however, I don’t like not knowing who I’m talking to, even if it’s just a single photo. So I asked him to send me one, assuring him it wasn’t for shallow reasons, just that I felt safer having a face to the name. He sent me a photo….
To put things simply, I am less than attracted. I don’t know what to do! I’m not shallow: extra weight, slightly receding hairline, a gap between the teeth…I’m not going to eliminate someone based on those things – never. I am not perfect, I have physical flaws as well.
But I am a firm believer that there has to be some attraction in order to even consider a relationship with someone. Am I a horrible person? And more importantly, how do I go about not being a complete jerk? I already let him know I received them, so it’s going to be awkward to not respond, plus, I’ll feel terrible knowing that he has at least an idea I’m not responding based on his looks.
Just thinking that makes me feel like the worst person in the world. Can you please help me?
