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My Son
Jan 19, 2014 6:45:51 GMT -5
Post by Concerned Mother on Jan 19, 2014 6:45:51 GMT -5
Morning JustUs,
My son has recently found a new group of kids to hang out with. This group of boys are very bad influences on him. When my son was arrested last week for stealing, I asked him what was he thinking. He reply was that they dared him to. I do not think these so called friends are a part of a gang, but it does worry me because their actions are not well intended by far.
My son was always well behaved, and made great grades in school. It has only been year that he has started to act out. I have tried talking to him about his actions and the consequences that could occur, but I just get a shrug of his shoulders. He is 14, going on 24 in his eyes. I can not get through to him. I need serious help and fast. His father is not active in his life at all nor do I have other male role models to step in. I placed him in the Boys and Girls club once but he was highly neglected being there was only 1 male in a team of 6 women looking after over 50 children.
What would you do?
A Concerned Mother
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My Son
Jan 19, 2014 12:40:45 GMT -5
Post by JustUs on Jan 19, 2014 12:40:45 GMT -5
Hello Concerned Mother,
This process that he's going through is called "grouping." At the tender age of 14 he has realized that you are a woman and he's soon to be a man. In our society there is no true rights of passage from childhood to an adult, sorta like Jewish Bar Mitzi. It's unfortunate that he doesn't have a father figure because they are really needed at this stage of their lives. In this grouping stage, little boys are simply trying to figure which group they belong to; gangs, jocks, nerds, etc. As parents we must give them directors and directions that are meaningful and will keep them out of trouble. God have already given them there DNA, we are just influencing them, encouraging them and steering them away from trouble. An idol mind is the devil's work shop. Keep him busy with enrollments in different programs. If the boys and girls club was too watered down for you, there's others; such as sports, band, karate, debate, acting, etc. Remember the ratio of men to child shouldn't matter more than the results of the program. Would you prefer the ratio of prison guards to the population for your child?
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