Post by Family Line on Jan 19, 2014 6:49:48 GMT -5
Justus,
I am happily married to a wonderful woman and I love her deeply. I also really like her immediate family, or my -n- laws, very much. They all treat me as part of the family and are a joy to be around.
The trouble is, I can’t stand some of her extended family members. When we are around them, which isn’t often, they always pick on her and give her a hard time. These people make some of the rudest comments, like how much weight she has put on, they tell her that the only reason I am with her is because no one else would have her, they say comments about her being lazy and sleep all the time. She usually just grins and takes it. She will make cutesy comments like “why do you always pick on me so mean?” They never respond, but just laugh.
I ask her why she allows them to be rude to her all the time, yet still go over to help them whenever they ask for her or us, she just replies they are only playing/picking on me but they are family and we treat them as such.
This woman has health issues they are all already aware of and is on disability for such. They are neglecting to see how good of a woman she really is. They do not know how sweet and loving she is to everyone else, or are too blind to see it.
I know it bothers her on the inside, but what can I do to make it easier for us both without stepping over the “family” line?
Thanks,
Family Line
I am happily married to a wonderful woman and I love her deeply. I also really like her immediate family, or my -n- laws, very much. They all treat me as part of the family and are a joy to be around.
The trouble is, I can’t stand some of her extended family members. When we are around them, which isn’t often, they always pick on her and give her a hard time. These people make some of the rudest comments, like how much weight she has put on, they tell her that the only reason I am with her is because no one else would have her, they say comments about her being lazy and sleep all the time. She usually just grins and takes it. She will make cutesy comments like “why do you always pick on me so mean?” They never respond, but just laugh.
I ask her why she allows them to be rude to her all the time, yet still go over to help them whenever they ask for her or us, she just replies they are only playing/picking on me but they are family and we treat them as such.
This woman has health issues they are all already aware of and is on disability for such. They are neglecting to see how good of a woman she really is. They do not know how sweet and loving she is to everyone else, or are too blind to see it.
I know it bothers her on the inside, but what can I do to make it easier for us both without stepping over the “family” line?
Thanks,
Family Line
