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Post by JustUs on Dec 30, 2013 19:52:41 GMT -5
Welcome to the place where we can be honest and talk about those things that concerns us!
JustUs is bluntly honest and the friend you need when you're looking for answers. Please be advised that we offer straight talk that is direct and to the point. So remember; sometimes
'the truth may hurt, but at least you'll know!'
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Post by candice704 on Dec 30, 2013 20:36:51 GMT -5
Thank you, I really need some advice JustUs, Ok.....here goes. I'm a great girl—funny, smart, and have been told I'm attractive. All my guy friends say they can't wait to find a girl just like me. And there's the problem. I'm always the friend—never the girlfriend. If I meet a man "with potential," I'm immediately designated "such a great friend." I flirt, I smile, I play the game! Why am I always so overlooked? I'm in my late 30's soon to be 40 and NEVER BEEN KISSED by a BOYFRIEND not a mistake or just someone passing time. HELP! I want a man!!!!  |
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Post by JustUs on Dec 30, 2013 21:23:02 GMT -5
It is obviously you come off as a friend. This is why you're treated as "the Friend." You're going to have to start presenting yourself as a "lady" so that they can see the woman you are. In order to show a man that you are the women he is looking for you must present yourself as a woman; in dress, style, mannerism, etc. Stop looking like the tomboy. Stop acting like the tomboy. Our actions do speak louder than words so make sure your actions and your presentation match up with what you're trying to get the man to notice in you.
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Post by candice704 on Dec 31, 2013 9:06:34 GMT -5
WoW! You responded right away. If I'd known your so quick, I would have posted long ago. Its just that I was do depressed this (and every) holiday season. But I guess your right. I do need to dress up and maybe add makeup. Another problem, I'm broke. I don't have the money to buy dressy clothes or put into myself like that. So I try to use what I have and that's nothing but the average plant worker attire. I want someone to love me for me and as I am not what they see. Is that too much to ask for?
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Post by sabrinao on Dec 31, 2013 9:20:33 GMT -5
Maybe you'll meet someone at work? Is there anyone there who you can try to get to know? Work with what you got.
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Post by JustUs on Dec 31, 2013 12:56:05 GMT -5
Hi Candice,
Imagine a nicely prepared sirloin steak. Juicy, tender and with all the right seasonings. A side of steam vegetables and a nice hot baked potato. Sounds good doesn't it? Now imagine being served that good food from the inside top of a dumpster that has been molded with trash for years. It's a turn off isn't it? Nothing is wrong with the food itself but its presentation is all wrong. I'm not suggesting you change who you are to find that special someone. What I do suggest is that you present yourself in a manner that is more appealing.
One advantage woman have is the unlimited resources of apparel and accessories available at little to no cost. A simple pair of WalMart jeans and a nice dress shirt can take you a long way. Especially if you can wear some heels or boots to match. Setting aside $20 here and there to invest in yourself is well worth the risk. TJ Max, Ross, Target, etc. have many clearance racks with prices as low as $3! Candice you must realize it's ok to be feminine sometimes. It's not hiding who you are but revealing what you are. Under the funny, attractive, easy to get along with person... you are a WOMAN. A LADY who wants the attention from a man. To get this, you must present it.
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Post by Anon on Dec 31, 2013 13:26:37 GMT -5
Amen!
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Post by candice704 on Jan 1, 2014 9:25:21 GMT -5
Never looked at myself like that before. But I guess it makes sense. Thanks!
And you're not so mean like I thought you'd be but very truthful. Much better than I expected. Thank you.
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Post by JustUs on Jan 2, 2014 12:39:25 GMT -5
Never was the intent to come off rude, just honest. Sometimes truth doesn't feel so good and the messenger gets the blame. But it is a pleasure to be of assistance to you and will continue to pray not only for your happiness with yourself then a mate but for you to be truly blessed with the peace of God!Come back and share your success story!!
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Post by candice704 on Jan 15, 2014 10:18:34 GMT -5
Hi Justus!
I just wanted to come back and let you know I have a boyfriend....well he's a strong potential boyfriend. We have been talking and seeing each other on a regular for over a week. He says he wants us to be get to know each other and keep it exclusive because he doesn't want me to get away. I'm so excited. He is so sweet and good to me. I met him at the grocery store of all places!
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