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Post by Savanna Hope on Jan 20, 2014 19:44:33 GMT -5
Dear JustUs,
I had been seeing this guy for a year and we hung out, went on dates, I hung out with his family and he hung out with mine but as time moved on I wanted more. Problem is, he didn’t. He said he didn't want a relationship because he didn’t have the time. So I thought I had to do what's best for me and my dreams and let him go. I did.
I met a new guy dated and it didn’t work out either and we broke up. People tell me how I'm such a great person and a catch but I'm not getting that result in the dating world. What's wrong with me? I don't have children. I have a job, car, my own home and I'm not bad looking. Maybe not a 10 but I'm not a "0" either.
Well.... I'm back to seeing my old friend again and now it’s going good. we hang out and go on dates.. I’ve gotten to know his friends but I still want more and he once again likes things the way they are and I don’t know to give him an ultimatum or ride it out and see how things go it’s been about two and a half weeks and I’m just ..Lost what do I do or say next?
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Post by JustUs on Jan 20, 2014 21:48:45 GMT -5
Hello Ms. Savanna Hope,
What you are doing is called "settling." You are letting the stereo types of others define who you are. There's no way in the Bible where it says you must be married. As a matter of fact, it says not to be married is a good thing because a person would try to please God more than a mate. If you can't maintain alone then it's a good thing to get married. There is no time table to find the perfect person to marry. Society place these expectations. You are doing the right thing by expressing your expectations. He either accept your terms or move on. When you start to compromise your stand you show weakness, then for sure it will be a down hill travel. God made somebody for everybody if he or she is patient. God has a plan for your life, first seek ye the kingdom of God and all else will be added. Ask him to show you the way. Don't dig yourself in the hole with someone you know that doesn't fit your standard then when Mr. Right comes along you too occupied to notice.
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