Post by G.Briggs from MA on Jan 20, 2014 23:53:16 GMT -5
Hello JustUs,
I believe my mother n law is upset with my husband and I, and I need an unbiased opinion on whether or not my husband and I did something wrong. My husband ( I’ll call Tom) works out of town 5 day a week and only comes home on weekends. He has been working out of town for 9 months now, and the only time he has spent more than 2 days in a row with our family has been over Christmas. During Christmas break he spent 12 days at home with us, however his mother spent 10 of those days with us. We were happy to see her, and enjoyed her company, but I admit I was happy to have the last two day alone with just my kids and my husband for some well needed family time. My husband has been planning on taking 4 days off on the kids spring break, to spend some well needed time with the kids and I, and we have been looking foward to the time together. My mother n law knew this and is now planning on coming down the week before my husband gets here and leaving the day before he leaves. I know this may sound selfish but my Tom and I were upset, because we had planned on that time to be just us and the kids. My husband called his mother and told her that he would love to see her when he gets home, but asked if she could find another place to stay for the last 4 days that she is here, so he could have some time with just his family. She said she understood, but when I called her a few days later, I could tell by her tone she was upset about it. Did we do something wrong? Tom gets in on a Tues. and he just asked if she could go to her brothers the following Thurs through Sunday. Do we owe her an apology? Are we being too selfish? What do you think?
I believe my mother n law is upset with my husband and I, and I need an unbiased opinion on whether or not my husband and I did something wrong. My husband ( I’ll call Tom) works out of town 5 day a week and only comes home on weekends. He has been working out of town for 9 months now, and the only time he has spent more than 2 days in a row with our family has been over Christmas. During Christmas break he spent 12 days at home with us, however his mother spent 10 of those days with us. We were happy to see her, and enjoyed her company, but I admit I was happy to have the last two day alone with just my kids and my husband for some well needed family time. My husband has been planning on taking 4 days off on the kids spring break, to spend some well needed time with the kids and I, and we have been looking foward to the time together. My mother n law knew this and is now planning on coming down the week before my husband gets here and leaving the day before he leaves. I know this may sound selfish but my Tom and I were upset, because we had planned on that time to be just us and the kids. My husband called his mother and told her that he would love to see her when he gets home, but asked if she could find another place to stay for the last 4 days that she is here, so he could have some time with just his family. She said she understood, but when I called her a few days later, I could tell by her tone she was upset about it. Did we do something wrong? Tom gets in on a Tues. and he just asked if she could go to her brothers the following Thurs through Sunday. Do we owe her an apology? Are we being too selfish? What do you think?
