Post by DJW on Jan 21, 2014 0:15:05 GMT -5
Hello JustUs,
Being a father and the head of my household I take pride and very protective of my family and the rules I set before us. As a man I understand the struggles young men have growing up dealing with the pressures of peer pressure and wanting to explore our sexual urges with the temptations of women. But from generation to generation I feel I'm losing touch to this new age democracy of dating and teenage pressures so I'm seeking an outside opinion to get a better idea of my parenting skills.
My 17-year old son is a senior in high school and is quite popular in school, and for the most part is just a pretty good kid. He is an athlete (one of the best in his school in all sports), and one of the bad aspects of this school system is that it is a badge of honor for the girls or boys to have sex with the most popular athlete. There is a girl that he says that he does not like, but every so often, he goes over to her house to “hang” out with her, whatever that means.
Over the past couple of days, he has been bringing the mail inside, which is something that he normally does not do. Today, I happened to be at home when the mail arrived, and included was a package addressed to him from a company that I did not recognize. I did some investigation on the Internet (three clicks with a Google search) and found that this company is a distributor of condoms.
How would you advise that we, his mother and I, go about handling this situation. My first intent was to present the package to him in the presence of his mother and make him open it, but it will devastate her, for this is something that we have hope and prayed would never happen. In addition, if we were to elect to discipline or punish him, what would you advise? You will see by my signature, what sort of problem that this situation might pose for me and my family.
Thanks for your help. Looking forward to your reply.
Pastor DJW
Being a father and the head of my household I take pride and very protective of my family and the rules I set before us. As a man I understand the struggles young men have growing up dealing with the pressures of peer pressure and wanting to explore our sexual urges with the temptations of women. But from generation to generation I feel I'm losing touch to this new age democracy of dating and teenage pressures so I'm seeking an outside opinion to get a better idea of my parenting skills.
My 17-year old son is a senior in high school and is quite popular in school, and for the most part is just a pretty good kid. He is an athlete (one of the best in his school in all sports), and one of the bad aspects of this school system is that it is a badge of honor for the girls or boys to have sex with the most popular athlete. There is a girl that he says that he does not like, but every so often, he goes over to her house to “hang” out with her, whatever that means.
Over the past couple of days, he has been bringing the mail inside, which is something that he normally does not do. Today, I happened to be at home when the mail arrived, and included was a package addressed to him from a company that I did not recognize. I did some investigation on the Internet (three clicks with a Google search) and found that this company is a distributor of condoms.
How would you advise that we, his mother and I, go about handling this situation. My first intent was to present the package to him in the presence of his mother and make him open it, but it will devastate her, for this is something that we have hope and prayed would never happen. In addition, if we were to elect to discipline or punish him, what would you advise? You will see by my signature, what sort of problem that this situation might pose for me and my family.
Thanks for your help. Looking forward to your reply.
Pastor DJW
