Post by Candy on Jan 21, 2014 18:36:02 GMT -5
Hello JustUs,
Almost a year ago now, I met an absolutely amazing guy online. As I am fully aware of some of the more sinister characters on the Internet who try to earn your trust for dishonest reasons, I was rather wary at first when he admitted that he liked me, but after a while I accepted that he really is who he said he was, and since then we’ve had a wonderful relationship that has greatly enhanced both of our lives, even though we live in different countries and neither of us has had the chance to visit in person as of yet. I am extremely shy and quiet at all times and have a fear of being judged by other people, and only average-looking, so talking to guys, never mind dating, has always been difficult if not impossible for me. I use Internet message boards as a way of expressing who I really am, and I suppose that’s why my now-boyfriend was attracted to me. The only problem is the fact that I am 18 (he is 19) and still living at my parents’ house with no chance of moving out in sight. I would be fine with this if not for the fact that they have a strong bias towards online dating and communication with “strangers” over the Internet in general. They’ve done as well as can be expected from any parent for me, but we do not have much in common, and so I spend most of my time in my room talking to him and doing homework and such.
This has caused them to grow increasingly “concerned” (AKA nosy) about what I’m doing on the computer, and have tried on many occasions to worm the truth out of me. I am not sure how they would react if I told them about my boyfriend, but my greatest fear is the possibility that they may forbid me from going on the Internet at all and subsequently take away my one connection with the one I love and my way to express my true self. However, I also feel that if I don’t tell them, they will eventually find out what I’m doing by force and without my consent and perhaps get me in even more trouble. Leaving him is not even close to an option, I love him more than I thought it was possible to love another human being, and do not want to lose that. Knowing we may not be together until years down the line I am willing to wait. But what should I do about the situation with my parents?
Candy
Almost a year ago now, I met an absolutely amazing guy online. As I am fully aware of some of the more sinister characters on the Internet who try to earn your trust for dishonest reasons, I was rather wary at first when he admitted that he liked me, but after a while I accepted that he really is who he said he was, and since then we’ve had a wonderful relationship that has greatly enhanced both of our lives, even though we live in different countries and neither of us has had the chance to visit in person as of yet. I am extremely shy and quiet at all times and have a fear of being judged by other people, and only average-looking, so talking to guys, never mind dating, has always been difficult if not impossible for me. I use Internet message boards as a way of expressing who I really am, and I suppose that’s why my now-boyfriend was attracted to me. The only problem is the fact that I am 18 (he is 19) and still living at my parents’ house with no chance of moving out in sight. I would be fine with this if not for the fact that they have a strong bias towards online dating and communication with “strangers” over the Internet in general. They’ve done as well as can be expected from any parent for me, but we do not have much in common, and so I spend most of my time in my room talking to him and doing homework and such.
This has caused them to grow increasingly “concerned” (AKA nosy) about what I’m doing on the computer, and have tried on many occasions to worm the truth out of me. I am not sure how they would react if I told them about my boyfriend, but my greatest fear is the possibility that they may forbid me from going on the Internet at all and subsequently take away my one connection with the one I love and my way to express my true self. However, I also feel that if I don’t tell them, they will eventually find out what I’m doing by force and without my consent and perhaps get me in even more trouble. Leaving him is not even close to an option, I love him more than I thought it was possible to love another human being, and do not want to lose that. Knowing we may not be together until years down the line I am willing to wait. But what should I do about the situation with my parents?
Candy
