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Post by Tidy Winy on Jan 22, 2014 23:00:19 GMT -5
JustUs,
I have been married for 2 years now, and I have a very big complaint about my husband, and was wondering if you could help.
I am a clean freak. Everything has to be in its place. My closet alone is organized by season, color, size, etc. I believe that each drawer/closet should be assigned a certain item or type of items. Everything has its own place and that is where it should go.
The trouble is my husband is such a huge slob. Every day he just tosses his own clothes on the floor when changing, I don’t think he knows what a laundry hamper is. He doesn’t even as much as take his own dishes to the sink.
JustUs, I really don’t know how much more of this I can take. I do not want my whole life being spent working, coming home and tending to kids, if any in the future, and cleaning up after him too.
Please help us, I don’t know how much more I can take of this before I run!!
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Post by JustUs on Jan 23, 2014 10:19:14 GMT -5
Hello Tidy Winy,
I see two different theories in play here, the opposite attraction and the old habits are hard to break. It's time to have a family sit down. Give them the mommy is human speech. Try to break down your daily schedule letting them see how hectic your day really is and give them visual. If you feel necessary, lay out a written schedule for all to see. By bringing everyone in unison, it will make it much easier to work with your husband. See you must reboot their minds like you would do a computer. Then reprogram and customize to your liking. I'm not telling you to use sex as a weapon because you got wifely duties but over all include special meals and special praises as reward system for complying. This reinforcements will cause longevity of desired behavior. You must really let your husband know how much his sloppiness get to you even if you have to admit that you have a complex; a driven desire for organization. If he truly loves you like we know he does because he wouldn't have married you, he will respect your position and do his best to satisfy you. Be mindful none of us are perfect and at one point you thought his act of reckless abandonment was cute.
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