Post by 39yr ol Woman on Jan 24, 2014 1:08:14 GMT -5
Good evening JustUs,
Well I have what seems to be a really great relationship. We have been together 10 months now. He is a really wonderful guy. I mean an honest to goodness gentlemen. I didn't think those men still existed. He treats me like a princess, very affectionate, does whatever he can for me. I love being with him, we get along great. Both families have been met. I go to his family functions and vice versa. So the problem? He still hasn't said he loves me. I told him 6 months in. He took me on a weekend getaway for my birthday. I was just feeling so wonderful and loved so I told him how I felt. His response was, "so soon?" I told him that day I didn't want him to say it if he didn't mean it but I wanted him to know how I felt. So here we are, 10 months and still nothing. He is a very cautious person. I know he has not said it because he does not want to say it if he doesn't mean it. He does not have issues expressing love. Watching him with his mother is something i've never seen before, he hugs her and kisses her to excess. He lights up when he talks to her. I don't think the issue could be that he has trouble saying it or he is scared. I've already put it out there, what is there to fear?
I feel that we're getting too old for games and wasted time. We're almost 40yrs old. I want to have/build a family one day. I have decided if he cannot express the same feelings for me by a year into this relationship I need to move on. I believe a person knows whether they want to be with someone within the first 6months to year of dating them. My struggle is, I do love him and would want nothing more than to spend my life with him. But if he still doesn't see that in me, than maybe it's not meant to be.
help Justus, I'm struggling with time, patience, him and within. What do you suggest?
Well I have what seems to be a really great relationship. We have been together 10 months now. He is a really wonderful guy. I mean an honest to goodness gentlemen. I didn't think those men still existed. He treats me like a princess, very affectionate, does whatever he can for me. I love being with him, we get along great. Both families have been met. I go to his family functions and vice versa. So the problem? He still hasn't said he loves me. I told him 6 months in. He took me on a weekend getaway for my birthday. I was just feeling so wonderful and loved so I told him how I felt. His response was, "so soon?" I told him that day I didn't want him to say it if he didn't mean it but I wanted him to know how I felt. So here we are, 10 months and still nothing. He is a very cautious person. I know he has not said it because he does not want to say it if he doesn't mean it. He does not have issues expressing love. Watching him with his mother is something i've never seen before, he hugs her and kisses her to excess. He lights up when he talks to her. I don't think the issue could be that he has trouble saying it or he is scared. I've already put it out there, what is there to fear?
I feel that we're getting too old for games and wasted time. We're almost 40yrs old. I want to have/build a family one day. I have decided if he cannot express the same feelings for me by a year into this relationship I need to move on. I believe a person knows whether they want to be with someone within the first 6months to year of dating them. My struggle is, I do love him and would want nothing more than to spend my life with him. But if he still doesn't see that in me, than maybe it's not meant to be.
help Justus, I'm struggling with time, patience, him and within. What do you suggest?
