Post by Tammie on Jan 25, 2014 6:54:20 GMT -5
Hello Justus,
I have a rather sensitive issue that is causing a stir in our house.
My husband's first wife past away about 5yrs prior to us meeting. He was deeply in love with her. She died of Cancer and put up a good long fight until her end came. I didn't know him then but I've heard he stood by her side til the end. He was deeply in love and everyone knew it. He did all he could financially to extend her life. Even though we are together now and I'm his new wife, I can still sense the love they had from his circle of friends, family, etc. I've grown to accept his past but ready for US to live our future.
Here is my problem, my husband has a tattoo he acquired during his prior love affair/marriage. It's of 2 wedding rings locked together with her (his deceased wife) and his name on his wrist. She had it too. When I see it, I am reminded of his past wife but hope I am hopefully the last of his line of lovers/wives. But JustUs, it makes me feel sad. I joke that my nick name is E Pluribus Unum (means the 'one' out of many). I would love it if he would remove it. I know it was his "love" but he is with me now and I want to feel special and loved just as well, not 2nd place. It would help me feel special. He is aware that I don't like the tattoo. I have not made the issue urgent. Money is not an issue in our situation. It almost seems like an ettiquette issue... consideration.
What are your thoughts on this?
I have a rather sensitive issue that is causing a stir in our house.
My husband's first wife past away about 5yrs prior to us meeting. He was deeply in love with her. She died of Cancer and put up a good long fight until her end came. I didn't know him then but I've heard he stood by her side til the end. He was deeply in love and everyone knew it. He did all he could financially to extend her life. Even though we are together now and I'm his new wife, I can still sense the love they had from his circle of friends, family, etc. I've grown to accept his past but ready for US to live our future.
Here is my problem, my husband has a tattoo he acquired during his prior love affair/marriage. It's of 2 wedding rings locked together with her (his deceased wife) and his name on his wrist. She had it too. When I see it, I am reminded of his past wife but hope I am hopefully the last of his line of lovers/wives. But JustUs, it makes me feel sad. I joke that my nick name is E Pluribus Unum (means the 'one' out of many). I would love it if he would remove it. I know it was his "love" but he is with me now and I want to feel special and loved just as well, not 2nd place. It would help me feel special. He is aware that I don't like the tattoo. I have not made the issue urgent. Money is not an issue in our situation. It almost seems like an ettiquette issue... consideration.
What are your thoughts on this?
