Post by Janise on Jan 25, 2014 7:16:12 GMT -5
JustUs,
The other day one of my very best friends was telling me about a new man she was dating. When she started to describe his job and other details of his life, I realized she was dating my ex-husband. Pictures confirmed it. We divorced thirteen years ago.
Although I long ago told her the story of how awful he treated me (including theft and being unfaithful), we were divorced by the time I met her and she never knew him. I realize that people can change in thirteen years, but I refreshed her memory of how he was to me so she could make an informed decision. She decided to keep dating him.
I want to be happy for her, but this is too personal and I am not doing well with it. Our friends all hang out in a big group quite often, and I cannot handle seeing someone as part of the group whom I took so long to recover from. What should I do?-Janise
The other day one of my very best friends was telling me about a new man she was dating. When she started to describe his job and other details of his life, I realized she was dating my ex-husband. Pictures confirmed it. We divorced thirteen years ago.
Although I long ago told her the story of how awful he treated me (including theft and being unfaithful), we were divorced by the time I met her and she never knew him. I realize that people can change in thirteen years, but I refreshed her memory of how he was to me so she could make an informed decision. She decided to keep dating him.
I want to be happy for her, but this is too personal and I am not doing well with it. Our friends all hang out in a big group quite often, and I cannot handle seeing someone as part of the group whom I took so long to recover from. What should I do?-Janise
