Post by Tasha on Jan 25, 2014 18:19:41 GMT -5
Hello JustUs,
I have an issue that started about 1 month ago and is still growing. I need your advice.
My boyfriend of 9months and I have a pretty decent relationship. Mostly routine, he works and I do too but we spend a good bit of time together. When we are apart, sometimes he acts as though he's mad at me for not calling him when I'm with my friends. OR when he calls he just sits on the phone as if he's listening to my background. I'm not cheating and is very happy with him alone but he has said I'm too friendly and like the attention of other men. I don't JustUs. I don't even look at other men like that. A couple of months ago I noticed his calls lighten up. He wasn't calling me as much. And he began to want to hang with his friends for the weekend not just evening. I was a llittle jealous because I don't hang with my friends like that. I just go out that 1 night, not overnight. He says he do it to give US space. I asked him if he was cheating and he got mad and asked me the same. I told him no but he turned that into a big argument and blamed me. Well we eventually made up but still there were some unanswered questions.
Well a month later we were in bed and while he was sleeping he called out another woman's name, Ashley. My name is Tasha. They don't even sound alike. It was in passion and he was barely awake. When I asked him about her, his face looked guilty and he started stuttering saying he didn't know what I was talking about or who she was. He says it probably was some hot lady he saw on tv and subconsciously dreamed of her. I'm not buying it but that's all I have to go on. I've checked his work patterns, cell phone calls, texts, FB, etc. NOTHING.
I don't want to become a stalker but I've noticed when he hangs with his "boys" he stays over...still. He says they get drunk and pass out. I don't believe it. He drinks with me all the time and he has a very high tolerance. I think that is when he is with her. Would it be wrong to secretly follow him? I have to know if he is. I'm plotting to ride with a friend so he doesn't notice my car and follow his butt to see if he is. Today is Saturday but by next weekend he will definitely make his plans. Please respond asap! Thanks.
I have an issue that started about 1 month ago and is still growing. I need your advice.
My boyfriend of 9months and I have a pretty decent relationship. Mostly routine, he works and I do too but we spend a good bit of time together. When we are apart, sometimes he acts as though he's mad at me for not calling him when I'm with my friends. OR when he calls he just sits on the phone as if he's listening to my background. I'm not cheating and is very happy with him alone but he has said I'm too friendly and like the attention of other men. I don't JustUs. I don't even look at other men like that. A couple of months ago I noticed his calls lighten up. He wasn't calling me as much. And he began to want to hang with his friends for the weekend not just evening. I was a llittle jealous because I don't hang with my friends like that. I just go out that 1 night, not overnight. He says he do it to give US space. I asked him if he was cheating and he got mad and asked me the same. I told him no but he turned that into a big argument and blamed me. Well we eventually made up but still there were some unanswered questions.
Well a month later we were in bed and while he was sleeping he called out another woman's name, Ashley. My name is Tasha. They don't even sound alike. It was in passion and he was barely awake. When I asked him about her, his face looked guilty and he started stuttering saying he didn't know what I was talking about or who she was. He says it probably was some hot lady he saw on tv and subconsciously dreamed of her. I'm not buying it but that's all I have to go on. I've checked his work patterns, cell phone calls, texts, FB, etc. NOTHING.
I don't want to become a stalker but I've noticed when he hangs with his "boys" he stays over...still. He says they get drunk and pass out. I don't believe it. He drinks with me all the time and he has a very high tolerance. I think that is when he is with her. Would it be wrong to secretly follow him? I have to know if he is. I'm plotting to ride with a friend so he doesn't notice my car and follow his butt to see if he is. Today is Saturday but by next weekend he will definitely make his plans. Please respond asap! Thanks.
