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Post by Private on Jan 27, 2014 9:02:49 GMT -5
Dear Justus,
I hope you are a parent or at least have an explanation to help me as one. My daughter doesn't listen to me at all, no changing chothes after coming from school till I say 10-15 times. Then I need to shout and get angry then also she will delay further. She takes more than 1 hour to eat her lunch and all the time asking for junk food. She wants to watch TV and play all the time and wants me at her service whenever she wants... even when I am asleep she will wake me up . She is 8 years old and does not sleep till I make her sleep. I work and find this situation too difficult to handle at times, especially as a single mother. I do get frustrated and begin to reciprocate her actions by getting upset which cause me to shout, scold and at times spank her. She has been called spoiled because she get almost everything she wants but she is not grateful. Sometimes I want to give up. She has become too cranky and is screaming and crying at her highest pitch and throwing her hands and legs all over the bed. I'm right now looking at her typing this to you. I don't know what to do anymore. this is getting out of hand and it is disturbing the younger daughter who is just 9 months old and now everythingis going chaotic. I put children bendril in their juices to help them sleep. This is my way to a peaceful nights sleep only to start it all over in the morning. I need help.
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Post by JustUs on Jan 28, 2014 0:23:15 GMT -5
Hello,
Well children will be children but they must also be taught structure. By placing her on a work schedule that includes educational learning, this will not only drain her physically but mentally as well. You know puzzles, coloring books, kindle, Wii,etc. Yelling has been proven not to work in children, it only confuses them and cause them to act out even more. For example she screams because u scream. It's a reflective behavior that's reciprocated. Punishment is necessary in the training process. These things that makes her spoiled will also make her behave. Try taking her favorite toy for an hour for the amount of times you have to ask her to do something. She will eventually get the point. It took some time for her to get out of control and it will take her time to correct the bad behavior. Everything is not scientific, so sometimes you just have to simply out smart the child.
Kids learn from there surrounding and if you put her in a constructive environment she will occupy herself, any type of lessons should help, like playing the piano. I'm sure you understand but you must also put this into action. Just keep her busy until bed time and punish her for not complying to house rules.
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Post by Private on Jan 28, 2014 17:56:08 GMT -5
Thank you
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