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Post by Sahara on Jan 28, 2014 0:40:33 GMT -5
Hello Justus,
My name is Sahara. My husband of 6 years has cheated and now has a baby on the way by this other woman. I'm hurt, I'm mad and confused. Confused to why he would do this to us. We haven't discussed anything yet but I found out by him sending me flowers and a card explaining what he had done. He claims it was a fling and that it meant nothing. He claims he has been haunted by his actions and now she is already talking about keeping the child and charging him child support. I am the bread winner in our household and we have no children. So not only is this a slap in my face, but for her to carry his first born while I'm his wife is an Ass Kick! I know I still love him. But I don't know how much of this I can take. Help me.
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Post by JustUs on Jan 28, 2014 12:05:50 GMT -5
Hello Sahara,
I know you are hurt and very disappointed in his actions but he's probably telling you the truth about her meaning little to him. As a matter of fact, he's coming clean because after his failed attempt into stopping her from having the baby he knew the proof was going to be in the flesh. The flesh is weak and he knows he messed up terribly. I'm not saying to let him off the hook easily, but I am saying consider what he is saying now because when most men feel that their backs are against the wall they usually come clean. Really, really drill him behind this situation letting him know about the hurt, the pain, the betrayal and don't forget the humiliation. If it goes unchecked, it will happen again. Communication, prayer and healing is at hand. Please understand that you must accept this child or throughout the years it will be a constant fighting point. Though the child is innocent and have nothing to do with his/her parents mistakes, people often take it out on the child. Don't! You must truly forgive before you can successfully move on.
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