Post by Benj on Jan 28, 2014 1:15:38 GMT -5
Ok, check this out Justus,
Back when I was 16 (I'm 24 now; male), I was in a relationship with a girl (she was 16 back then also and we had been together for two years). Long story short, we had our first time and then it was as if she was gone two weeks later; I mean, no calls, no visits, letters, nothing at all. I remember going by her house one day and her parents (they knew we were together at the time) told me that she went to a boarding school and that was it, nothing else. I was devastated; it hurt a lot; even to this day I still haven't been with or dated anyone else because I still love her even though it was almost a decade ago.
We lived in a medium(ish)-sized town and basically once I hit 18 I went off to college. But earlier this month there was a funeral for her great-uncle (he was prominent in the town so everyone was there) and I went to attend with my family. I saw her there but I didn't say anything; I don't think she saw me; hundreds of people were there.
What gets me is that there was this little boy following her around (I know it was her; she has a distinct look and she looks exactly the same just a bit older) so I thought maybe he was a family member or something but then he called her mom. He looked like he's 7 or 8 years old but the thing that really gets me is that he looks exactly like me: same eyes (her eyes are silver and mine are really dark brown), hair type/color and everything; exactly how I looked when I was that age.
I went up to one of my mom's friends there that knew the family and asked who he (the little boy) was and she told me his name (which happens to be the name that we said we would name our firstborn when we grew up) and that he was her (my old girlfriend's) son and that he was 7 (which would imply that she had him around the time she was 16/17). What should I do? I mean, I completely hid from her at the funeral but I still love her. I would totally get it if she didn't feel that way anymore but I am so lost here. If he is mine (which I know I might just be speculating for now) I would want to be in his life (if she's willing). What should I do?
Back when I was 16 (I'm 24 now; male), I was in a relationship with a girl (she was 16 back then also and we had been together for two years). Long story short, we had our first time and then it was as if she was gone two weeks later; I mean, no calls, no visits, letters, nothing at all. I remember going by her house one day and her parents (they knew we were together at the time) told me that she went to a boarding school and that was it, nothing else. I was devastated; it hurt a lot; even to this day I still haven't been with or dated anyone else because I still love her even though it was almost a decade ago.
We lived in a medium(ish)-sized town and basically once I hit 18 I went off to college. But earlier this month there was a funeral for her great-uncle (he was prominent in the town so everyone was there) and I went to attend with my family. I saw her there but I didn't say anything; I don't think she saw me; hundreds of people were there.
What gets me is that there was this little boy following her around (I know it was her; she has a distinct look and she looks exactly the same just a bit older) so I thought maybe he was a family member or something but then he called her mom. He looked like he's 7 or 8 years old but the thing that really gets me is that he looks exactly like me: same eyes (her eyes are silver and mine are really dark brown), hair type/color and everything; exactly how I looked when I was that age.
I went up to one of my mom's friends there that knew the family and asked who he (the little boy) was and she told me his name (which happens to be the name that we said we would name our firstborn when we grew up) and that he was her (my old girlfriend's) son and that he was 7 (which would imply that she had him around the time she was 16/17). What should I do? I mean, I completely hid from her at the funeral but I still love her. I would totally get it if she didn't feel that way anymore but I am so lost here. If he is mine (which I know I might just be speculating for now) I would want to be in his life (if she's willing). What should I do?
