Post by Darin on Feb 1, 2014 1:45:27 GMT -5
Hello JustUs,
I am a 53-year-old male who is fit, healthy and has a good job. I also have two failed marriages behind me, which have cost me dearly, both emotionally and financially. I have no intention of making that mistake again! I have been on my own for five years, and in that time I have had five relationships -- always with women my age (give or take a few years).
My problem is that women my age seem to have only one agenda: marriage. One very nice lady finally clarified her feelings by saying that at this time in her life, she didn't have time for "just dating" because in a few years she'd be 60.
I understand her dilemma, but I'm not interested.
I try hard to make it clear at the beginning of any relationship that marriage is out of the question, and I don't proceed with the relationship unless the lady wholeheartedly agrees. But somehow I have broken five good hearts, whose only transgression was falling in love with me. I seem not to meet that special someone who can handle keeping the relationship "as is" and not expect marriage as an outcome- but a happy, healthy relationship.
What do you suggest in how to convey this to women??
-- NOBODY'S RETIREMENT HUSBAND
I am a 53-year-old male who is fit, healthy and has a good job. I also have two failed marriages behind me, which have cost me dearly, both emotionally and financially. I have no intention of making that mistake again! I have been on my own for five years, and in that time I have had five relationships -- always with women my age (give or take a few years).
My problem is that women my age seem to have only one agenda: marriage. One very nice lady finally clarified her feelings by saying that at this time in her life, she didn't have time for "just dating" because in a few years she'd be 60.
I understand her dilemma, but I'm not interested.
I try hard to make it clear at the beginning of any relationship that marriage is out of the question, and I don't proceed with the relationship unless the lady wholeheartedly agrees. But somehow I have broken five good hearts, whose only transgression was falling in love with me. I seem not to meet that special someone who can handle keeping the relationship "as is" and not expect marriage as an outcome- but a happy, healthy relationship.
What do you suggest in how to convey this to women??
-- NOBODY'S RETIREMENT HUSBAND
