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Post by Crystal on Feb 1, 2014 11:36:12 GMT -5
Hi JustUs,
I'm a high school senior. At the beginning of the school year, I agreed to drive my best friend to school in the mornings, and for a while it was nice.
Last month she started to refuse to talk while I was driving. If I tried talking to her, she wouldn't respond. She recently told her boyfriend (who she texts constantly while riding with me) that she didn't like my driving. I found out because of a post he made on Facebook. When I asked her about it, she said that morning I had slammed on the brakes and it scared her.
This has made me tense and stressed out in the mornings, and I want to stop driving her. My grandmother says I should stick it out instead of causing friction. My mom thinks I should stop driving her, but only if she can find another ride.
This has really ruined our relationship. I feel like she hates me, but needs the ride. I have never been in any accidents or caused any scares but the one she is talking about (it really wasn't my fault, a car cut me off). But to talk about me behind my back is hurtful. What do you think I should do? School isn't out til June and it's only February now.
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Post by JustUs on Feb 1, 2014 22:03:58 GMT -5
Crystal,
Put the shoe on the other foot, you must have really scared her. Ask yourself, "is it really talking behind your back if she told you that she refuse to talk to you while you are driving?" Yes, she must really need the ride if she's that terrified of your driving yet still catching a ride. I agree with you about the posting on Facebook, that wasn't handled properly. Pull her to the side and simply remind her that it is her that needs the favor and you won't tolerate her slandering your name. Be sure you tell her you value her as a friend and how hurtful talking behind your back feels. Strong relationships are built on trust and when someone feels betrayed the bond will break. Either address the issue face to face or go your separate ways, there are no other options. Pray for her first and God bless.
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Post by Crystal on Feb 2, 2014 21:45:00 GMT -5
No, it wasn't handled properly at all. It really hurt my feelings and I'm sure she would be hurt also if I was dirty and said things about her.
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Post by JustUs on Feb 3, 2014 0:30:09 GMT -5
You're right. But I'm glad you're mature and you are aware that's not the way to handling things. Be proud of yourself Crystal, you are handling yourself in an adult manner by simply approaching her and sharing your feelings.
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