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Post by Elizabeth on Feb 2, 2014 8:42:05 GMT -5
JustUs,
During the past three years, my husband and I managed to save about $45,000 for a down payment on the purchase of a new home. (We each put in about half.) Early last month, I asked my husband if he liked one house we had just seen, and he confessed that he had taken all the money we had saved and put it into a struggling business he has had for 12 years and which I helped him run on weekends.
I am devastated! It's not just the money, which was for our future. The plan was to purchase an affordable home and pay it off quickly. But he lied to me, strung me along and stole from me, because half of that money was mine. There is no chance he can repay it. My trust in him and our marriage is broken. What are your thoughts?
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Post by JustUs on Feb 2, 2014 14:25:20 GMT -5
Elizabeth,
You have to rebuild. I mean that both ways, on trust issues as well as financially. I know your situation seem dire and he let you down. To have a plan and dream then implemented it only to find out that you aren't as close as you thought, very disappointing! Let's think about all the things your husband do great and then work back to this moment. His intentions were good but the end results was the disappointment. Most marriages either end on emotional or financial reasons. You are not broke financially so it's a trust issue? Money is something you always will be able to get again. God blessed you once and he'll do it again. Your husband is obviously the type to put his heart into every thing that he does, so it's might be the time to have the "let's let this business go" talk along with the "lost of trust" talk. He's not going to want to let it go and you not going to want to take anymore shorts. This impasse could be dangerous for your marriage. No mankind can take what God has intended for you all. You both must come to some understanding because you're a team, one as God intended. If the business would have been successful, would you be allowed to enjoy the fruits of his labor? I know you helped out on weekends but keep all this in mind when discussing the issue. I know you are disappointed but he had good intentions and think about other people's relationship and all the unthinkable situations, stay together.
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