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Post by Mindy on Feb 4, 2014 1:08:14 GMT -5
Hi Justus,
My daughter, "Brooke," is 12, and already she's causing me to worry. She has a serious boyfriend, "Lyle." It's not a secret. I have been pestering her to bring Lyle to meet me, but she never gets around to it.
Brooke has never been a good student; however, lately she has been getting all A's in homework, but C's and D's in tests and in her school assignments. I suspect that her boyfriend is doing her homework for her. I know that Lyle is in high school because I have heard her talking on the phone to her friends. My problem is, I feel weird accusing him of anything when I haven't met him. Am I wrong? What should I do?
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Post by JustUs on Feb 4, 2014 14:06:26 GMT -5
Mindy,
As a mother it's your duty to pester your child to make sure she's headed in the right direction and to make sure she is not influenced by the wrong company. All children will have their turbulence during growth and it's the parents that help stir them through those pit falls. Stay persistent in your pursuits and I'm sure something will turn up. You are the parent, not a child. If she spends that much time with her love interest, it's got to be a way you will eventually cross paths with him. How is she spending that much time with him anyway at 12? You should know her whereabouts at ALL times. Other than that, a child is going to be a child regardless. It is our job as adults to be productive parents regardless. 
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Post by Mindy on Feb 4, 2014 20:19:28 GMT -5
But Justus, I have been trying to get her to introduce us for the longest. She keep coming up with excuses. I've been trying so hard and I'm not getting anywhere. I need help!
PS
Please give me detailed advice!
Thanks!
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Post by JustUs on Feb 4, 2014 22:14:32 GMT -5
Mindy,
Your child is 12 not 18. When she gets out of school, where is she? She should be home studying and doing her homework with you overseeing that she does. Any company she keeps or her after school leisure time still should be controlled by you. Since she won't bring you to her "friend," then make him come to you. She needs to be home during those hours she's out socializing among friends after school. Let her friends come over to visit her. This way, you get to meet ALL her associates. If her "friend" cares about her so, he'll come and be ready to meet you. When a 12yr old (or younger) child tells you she is dating it is good to find out her mindset and if her idea of a relationship is appropriate for her age or not. There is a difference between an elementary boyfriend and a high school boyfriend. You have to be more aggressive and stand your ground with your child. If not, they will take advantage of any opportunity to do what they want which can cause serious consequences down the line. You being the parent know these things and have to strongly encourage them to make the better decision. The Bible says to train a child up in the order they should go so when they get older they won't depart from it.
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