Post by Luv on Feb 5, 2014 0:37:38 GMT -5
Dear JustUs,
I am currently dating a man that has and is selling illegal items. When I first met him I was impressed with his 3bdrm condo, his 2012 BMW and the host of shopping sprees and trips we'd take spontaneously. He makes me feel like a princess. As we get closer and now talking about marriage, I can't see us surviving together and living that happy life with us never knowing when or if he'll get caught and be sent away. I do love him and know that his income defines who he is and his entire lifestyle, but I cannot live a life hiding and always looking over my shoulder (and his, to be honest). I've shared my feelings but he says this is his life and when I met him, I knew. But Justus, when I first met him, I didn't know. I suspected, but didn't know. He has this part-time job at a Fed-Ex but he rarely works their. Other than his "income" elsewhere, he couldn't survive. I'm thinking I cannot continue to be with someone who choose to live like this. He is putting himself in jeopardy every day and now, ME too. I should have known better when we met not to continue but 3yrs later, here I am and I love him. This is why it's so hard to leave. Any suggestions or input? I don't want us to end but I can't keep this up and expect to have children with him (one day).
I am currently dating a man that has and is selling illegal items. When I first met him I was impressed with his 3bdrm condo, his 2012 BMW and the host of shopping sprees and trips we'd take spontaneously. He makes me feel like a princess. As we get closer and now talking about marriage, I can't see us surviving together and living that happy life with us never knowing when or if he'll get caught and be sent away. I do love him and know that his income defines who he is and his entire lifestyle, but I cannot live a life hiding and always looking over my shoulder (and his, to be honest). I've shared my feelings but he says this is his life and when I met him, I knew. But Justus, when I first met him, I didn't know. I suspected, but didn't know. He has this part-time job at a Fed-Ex but he rarely works their. Other than his "income" elsewhere, he couldn't survive. I'm thinking I cannot continue to be with someone who choose to live like this. He is putting himself in jeopardy every day and now, ME too. I should have known better when we met not to continue but 3yrs later, here I am and I love him. This is why it's so hard to leave. Any suggestions or input? I don't want us to end but I can't keep this up and expect to have children with him (one day).
