Post by Karrie on Feb 6, 2014 15:40:33 GMT -5
Hi JustUs,
So I have been going out with this one guy for almost a year. We've had our ups and downs, but lately it is getting to be more than I can handle. He has major trust issues. But the thing is, I NEVER cheated or gave him any reason for him to feel that way. When I ask him, he just says that he "knows how females are." I'll admit that when I talk to people, I do have a more giddy personality, but that is because it's like my defense mechanism to not show how nervous I am. I don't do it intentionally. Nevertheless, he feels like I'm flirting. I am responsible. I don't party like that except on special occasions. The times when I do go out though (even just to eat lunch with my girlfriends), he gives me hell. He constantly calls me and wants to know my every move. AND I AM ABSOLUTELY FORBIDDEN TO HANG OUT WITH MALES. However, when he goes out, I don't give him problems because I do trust him. I feel really tied down with this guy. I feel like I am sacrificing a lot so I don't piss him off and so there will be peace. The hard part is, in other aspects, he is there for me. He is romantic. He shows me affection. And he was and still is always there to comfort me because I don't have anyone. My family is going through a divorce and I don't live with any of my sisters nor do I see my mother or father like that. He is always there point blank. I don't doubt that I can find someone else, but at the same time, I am so comfortable with him in that aspect. Sometimes, I just want to go out, you know? I am young and I am not asking to experience different men. I just want to have fun and maybe party once in a while because I am young. Do you think there could be a compromise with this situation? He gives me everything else but like I said, he wants me to live in a box. I don't think that's right but at the same time I don't think it's worth losing him over the fact that I want to drink here and there with my friends. Advice papapaplease!
So I have been going out with this one guy for almost a year. We've had our ups and downs, but lately it is getting to be more than I can handle. He has major trust issues. But the thing is, I NEVER cheated or gave him any reason for him to feel that way. When I ask him, he just says that he "knows how females are." I'll admit that when I talk to people, I do have a more giddy personality, but that is because it's like my defense mechanism to not show how nervous I am. I don't do it intentionally. Nevertheless, he feels like I'm flirting. I am responsible. I don't party like that except on special occasions. The times when I do go out though (even just to eat lunch with my girlfriends), he gives me hell. He constantly calls me and wants to know my every move. AND I AM ABSOLUTELY FORBIDDEN TO HANG OUT WITH MALES. However, when he goes out, I don't give him problems because I do trust him. I feel really tied down with this guy. I feel like I am sacrificing a lot so I don't piss him off and so there will be peace. The hard part is, in other aspects, he is there for me. He is romantic. He shows me affection. And he was and still is always there to comfort me because I don't have anyone. My family is going through a divorce and I don't live with any of my sisters nor do I see my mother or father like that. He is always there point blank. I don't doubt that I can find someone else, but at the same time, I am so comfortable with him in that aspect. Sometimes, I just want to go out, you know? I am young and I am not asking to experience different men. I just want to have fun and maybe party once in a while because I am young. Do you think there could be a compromise with this situation? He gives me everything else but like I said, he wants me to live in a box. I don't think that's right but at the same time I don't think it's worth losing him over the fact that I want to drink here and there with my friends. Advice papapaplease!
