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Post by Jim on Feb 7, 2014 6:32:13 GMT -5
Hello JustUs,
I was married to my high school sweetheart, "Linda," for 37 years. I am a widower now and going into a new relationship. "Susan" and I are going slow, but we may end up living together in my home after marriage. She has been very understanding and respects the past love I once shared with my late wife.
How do I integrate pictures of Linda with Susan being there? I have one of Linda and the kids, one of the two of us, and a painting of Linda and me together. Eventually I will want one with me and Susan. I don't want to forget the mother of my children nor my highschool love but I don't want my wife-to-be to feel overshadowed by my 1st wife.
How do I make this work? This is all new to me and I don't want to screw this up.
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Post by JustUs on Feb 7, 2014 14:41:38 GMT -5
Jim,
True memories will never leave the mind because it's imbedded forever, like those of you and your late wife. If you don't remove the pictures or minimize the pictures of her, Linda will definitely feel some kind of way. I know the old house holds all type of memories but you are about to create new memories for you and the new. If it really means that much to you, talk to her and share your concerns. Communication is important. If she's a great of a woman for you to consider marriage and has put up with you all this time, I'm sure she's a bit more understanding than you're giving her credit. Talk to her.
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