Post by Terrance on Feb 9, 2014 1:43:06 GMT -5
Hello JustUs,
My girlfriend has recently been talking more about a guy (who is single) whom she works with 2 days of the week. I have known about him for a while, however it just seems more recently she mentions him in her recap on work. They now seem to message each other a lot on facebook. She has been very open with me about it however it still gets to me so i decided to check her facebook messages.
The messages are standard chit chat however there are always lots of smiley faces in them and its gone from only a few messages a week to every day.
He has told her she should come see his band (as friends) and they did message to arrange a time to meet up for a coffee outside of work (again using the expression as friends to show they are both clear on that) which without me having to ask her, my girlfriend told me about, however i could tell she knew i wouldn't be that happy about it and i told her that i wasnt and that i would only be so if there was another person there with them.
She has female friends but doesnt seem to make much effort keeping in touch, maybe a text here and there and the odd coffee. Just recently she has hit it off with this guy so they message a lot more than she does her female friends.
I want to say i trust my girlfriend but the fact im writing this now obviously means i have issues. We have talked about it, the not wanting her to meet him outside work and also that i am a little uncomfortable that they now seem to be messaging each other a lot more. She says she understands, however things seem a little uncomfortable around us so now starting to feel like im the bad guy.
Is it wrong for me to not want her to go for a coffee and be chatting to him all the time? I worry that although she may be totally innocent in her behaviour, the guy might think otherwise. I did come across one message which although seemed totally innocent, said that chatting to him at work is the highlight of her day. Although it was probably written with innocent meaning, its messages like this that worry me as i dont know how the guy reads into it
.
advice from both sexes would be great as this is eating me up!! Thanks
My girlfriend has recently been talking more about a guy (who is single) whom she works with 2 days of the week. I have known about him for a while, however it just seems more recently she mentions him in her recap on work. They now seem to message each other a lot on facebook. She has been very open with me about it however it still gets to me so i decided to check her facebook messages.
The messages are standard chit chat however there are always lots of smiley faces in them and its gone from only a few messages a week to every day.
He has told her she should come see his band (as friends) and they did message to arrange a time to meet up for a coffee outside of work (again using the expression as friends to show they are both clear on that) which without me having to ask her, my girlfriend told me about, however i could tell she knew i wouldn't be that happy about it and i told her that i wasnt and that i would only be so if there was another person there with them.
She has female friends but doesnt seem to make much effort keeping in touch, maybe a text here and there and the odd coffee. Just recently she has hit it off with this guy so they message a lot more than she does her female friends.
I want to say i trust my girlfriend but the fact im writing this now obviously means i have issues. We have talked about it, the not wanting her to meet him outside work and also that i am a little uncomfortable that they now seem to be messaging each other a lot more. She says she understands, however things seem a little uncomfortable around us so now starting to feel like im the bad guy.
Is it wrong for me to not want her to go for a coffee and be chatting to him all the time? I worry that although she may be totally innocent in her behaviour, the guy might think otherwise. I did come across one message which although seemed totally innocent, said that chatting to him at work is the highlight of her day. Although it was probably written with innocent meaning, its messages like this that worry me as i dont know how the guy reads into it
.
advice from both sexes would be great as this is eating me up!! Thanks
