Post by Deni'cka on Feb 9, 2014 22:43:07 GMT -5
Hi Justus,
I've been dating my man now for over 6 months. He has 2 children from previous relationships from 2 different women. The children ages are 12 and 16. JustUs, I notice that he keep in touch with the youngest child's mother more often than I'd like. They talk all the time seems like but if you let him tell it, he says no. I understand that communication is important when dealing with children but how much is too much? And when the child is old enough to speak for themselves, is it necessarily for the parents to talk as often as every week? I don't mind that he has children and is an active parent but I do mind the feeling I have knowing that he talks with her every week! He pays child support directly from his check and has his daughter (and son) most every weekend so what needs to be said that their child can't say? Do you think I'm over reacting? I told him how I was feeling and he told me I was being jealous and he won't choose over his kids but I'm not asking him to choose. I just want to be clear he's not bringing me in the midst of a relationship that isn't over. I don't want to be left standing looking fool.
Let me make a point to say that when his daughter was 3yrs old he was stationed out of the country so he didn't get to spend much time with her. The relationship with her mom had already ended from HER infidelity so communication was awkward and few. 6yrs later, time healed wounds and they are now sociable. But I'm concerned if there are feelings between them that they are not addressing. He tells me he wants us to grow but he's not feeling the "insecurities" I'm giving him. I'm not feeling the conversations when I'm not around. I only know of them because he'll slip up and mention something about her. What do you think? I'm soooo needing advice right now.
I've been dating my man now for over 6 months. He has 2 children from previous relationships from 2 different women. The children ages are 12 and 16. JustUs, I notice that he keep in touch with the youngest child's mother more often than I'd like. They talk all the time seems like but if you let him tell it, he says no. I understand that communication is important when dealing with children but how much is too much? And when the child is old enough to speak for themselves, is it necessarily for the parents to talk as often as every week? I don't mind that he has children and is an active parent but I do mind the feeling I have knowing that he talks with her every week! He pays child support directly from his check and has his daughter (and son) most every weekend so what needs to be said that their child can't say? Do you think I'm over reacting? I told him how I was feeling and he told me I was being jealous and he won't choose over his kids but I'm not asking him to choose. I just want to be clear he's not bringing me in the midst of a relationship that isn't over. I don't want to be left standing looking fool.
Let me make a point to say that when his daughter was 3yrs old he was stationed out of the country so he didn't get to spend much time with her. The relationship with her mom had already ended from HER infidelity so communication was awkward and few. 6yrs later, time healed wounds and they are now sociable. But I'm concerned if there are feelings between them that they are not addressing. He tells me he wants us to grow but he's not feeling the "insecurities" I'm giving him. I'm not feeling the conversations when I'm not around. I only know of them because he'll slip up and mention something about her. What do you think? I'm soooo needing advice right now.
