Post by Henry on Feb 11, 2014 11:29:56 GMT -5
Dear Justus,
Should I take my kids to visit their mother in jail? Their mother is going to jail for eight months for forgery related charges. I am wondering if I should take my 14 year old daughter and 11 year old son to visit her, but I am not sure if I want them to be in a prison environment. It has nothing really to do with the mother. She made some bad decisions but it was out of character so I think she melted down and had a lapse in judgment and made some bad decisions. She also never did anything bad at all before this and was always sane and reasonable. Also, their mother is showing regret and no defense at what she did and has admitted to being a bad influence to her kids so that is why I am still willing to stick by her. Also she was not an absent parent or anything. I am not defending her or saying she should not serve her punishment or anything either, it is really only the type of environment. I hear also it is a hassle to get in and you don’t even get much time to speak. Both my son and daughter are taking it fine and acting totally normal and are OK with the idea of visiting and they had good relationships with their mother, though my daughter said it is kind of cool that her mother is locked up and is now the one being ordered around by others and my son said that "now she knows what it is like to be punished so maybe when she gets back things might be a little different. " I asked what they mean by that and they said they are just joking. I think that is OK to try to crack a joke to make the situation feel less bad and may be a better way of handing the situation instead of being hysterical about it. And maybe it is OK to find it a little amusing (though I mean it when I say "little") that their mom is in the punishment situation now. If I do take them, what should I say to them beforehand? Some say you can make it a learning experience.
Should I take my kids to visit their mother in jail? Their mother is going to jail for eight months for forgery related charges. I am wondering if I should take my 14 year old daughter and 11 year old son to visit her, but I am not sure if I want them to be in a prison environment. It has nothing really to do with the mother. She made some bad decisions but it was out of character so I think she melted down and had a lapse in judgment and made some bad decisions. She also never did anything bad at all before this and was always sane and reasonable. Also, their mother is showing regret and no defense at what she did and has admitted to being a bad influence to her kids so that is why I am still willing to stick by her. Also she was not an absent parent or anything. I am not defending her or saying she should not serve her punishment or anything either, it is really only the type of environment. I hear also it is a hassle to get in and you don’t even get much time to speak. Both my son and daughter are taking it fine and acting totally normal and are OK with the idea of visiting and they had good relationships with their mother, though my daughter said it is kind of cool that her mother is locked up and is now the one being ordered around by others and my son said that "now she knows what it is like to be punished so maybe when she gets back things might be a little different. " I asked what they mean by that and they said they are just joking. I think that is OK to try to crack a joke to make the situation feel less bad and may be a better way of handing the situation instead of being hysterical about it. And maybe it is OK to find it a little amusing (though I mean it when I say "little") that their mom is in the punishment situation now. If I do take them, what should I say to them beforehand? Some say you can make it a learning experience.
