Post by Pat on Feb 12, 2014 19:58:19 GMT -5
Dear JustUs,
I have a very unusual situation and hoping you can see the full picture as I explain it to you as best I can without bias. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4mos. So we are new. We met online and have been talking and getting to know one another everyday since. We are planning our first date April 9th which is the 6mos anniversary to the date we met. I'm so excited. Of course we have seen a few pictures of one another to have an idea about each others physical appearance but we purposely haven't over done it with the exchanges to keep our mental & spiritual on a positive note. We are both Christians and doing what we feel is best to do as we progress in this relationship. Because we spend so much time talking, our family and friends have picked up on their being a special person in our lives. We live only 1-2hrs apart so they know we have a drive to see each other.
Here is the problem # 1. My family nor friends know we met online. And I have also failed to share we've never met. They think that he and I have been seeing each other and spending time with one another all this time. I want to wait til our first date and see how it goes before introducing him. I have a certain knowing in my faith that he definitely qualifies to be a life partner, husband. He has shared our story with his family and they are supportive and watching the calendar. When he asks about mine, I just brush it off. I don't want to be deceptive but I've had clowns in the past and know my family would not agree to us dating. Am I wrong?
Problem #2. Sometimes while talking to him I feel so emotional. So emotional that he is such a great guy and I want to be with him..."physically." We have been keeping our relationship righteous and uplifting so well and I don't want him to feel I'm the devil in disguise. So whenever I feel "wanting," I try to hide it. He is such a turn on. Justus?-What if I get too excited while with him and say or do the wrong thing? First impressions are life lasting. I would hate for him to think I've been portraying this good girl (and I really am and I love God so much) but have wrong intentions. I have only been with 1 person my entire life but the "urges'" still come. He hasn't mentioned ever having urges so I don't know how he feels. What do you think?
I have a very unusual situation and hoping you can see the full picture as I explain it to you as best I can without bias. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4mos. So we are new. We met online and have been talking and getting to know one another everyday since. We are planning our first date April 9th which is the 6mos anniversary to the date we met. I'm so excited. Of course we have seen a few pictures of one another to have an idea about each others physical appearance but we purposely haven't over done it with the exchanges to keep our mental & spiritual on a positive note. We are both Christians and doing what we feel is best to do as we progress in this relationship. Because we spend so much time talking, our family and friends have picked up on their being a special person in our lives. We live only 1-2hrs apart so they know we have a drive to see each other.
Here is the problem # 1. My family nor friends know we met online. And I have also failed to share we've never met. They think that he and I have been seeing each other and spending time with one another all this time. I want to wait til our first date and see how it goes before introducing him. I have a certain knowing in my faith that he definitely qualifies to be a life partner, husband. He has shared our story with his family and they are supportive and watching the calendar. When he asks about mine, I just brush it off. I don't want to be deceptive but I've had clowns in the past and know my family would not agree to us dating. Am I wrong?
Problem #2. Sometimes while talking to him I feel so emotional. So emotional that he is such a great guy and I want to be with him..."physically." We have been keeping our relationship righteous and uplifting so well and I don't want him to feel I'm the devil in disguise. So whenever I feel "wanting," I try to hide it. He is such a turn on. Justus?-What if I get too excited while with him and say or do the wrong thing? First impressions are life lasting. I would hate for him to think I've been portraying this good girl (and I really am and I love God so much) but have wrong intentions. I have only been with 1 person my entire life but the "urges'" still come. He hasn't mentioned ever having urges so I don't know how he feels. What do you think?
