Post by Tremaine on Feb 16, 2014 1:32:33 GMT -5
JustUs,
Am I a consolation prize?
Prior to dating me my boyfriend was crazy in love with another woman. When they broke up, he was devastated, and they parted on bad terms. They were close friends for seven years, dated for a year, and broke up two years ago.
A few months later she tried to resume a friendship, and only a friendship, with him. He told her to get lost, and she never contacted him again. Six months after we started dating I found out he emailed her twice. He told her we were vacationing at their "special place." She replied, "Hope you have a good time."
A month later she emailed asking if they could talk. He emailed back he was living with me, had bought a ring, and planned to get engaged. He also said I didn't want him to contact her. She apologized for any misunderstanding and wished him the best of luck with his engagement.
Four months later we ran into his ex at a party. He introduced me as his fiancée and told her we were engaged. This was not true. We were not engaged, but I played along with it. He was obviously flustered seeing her, but she congratulated us.
I was furious with how upset he was. He assured me he loved only me and said he emailed her about our "engagement" in hopes she would stop contacting him. I know this isn't true. I know he contacted her first, when we were on vacation. He showed me the email, and it seemed spiteful. Sort of, "Ha, ha, I am getting married."
I also never told him he couldn't contact her. We never even discussed it. Recently, two weeks before his 40th birthday, we got engaged. I am 35. I am upset he contacted her at all and lied about us being engaged before we actually were. Am I overreacting?
Am I a consolation prize?
Prior to dating me my boyfriend was crazy in love with another woman. When they broke up, he was devastated, and they parted on bad terms. They were close friends for seven years, dated for a year, and broke up two years ago.
A few months later she tried to resume a friendship, and only a friendship, with him. He told her to get lost, and she never contacted him again. Six months after we started dating I found out he emailed her twice. He told her we were vacationing at their "special place." She replied, "Hope you have a good time."
A month later she emailed asking if they could talk. He emailed back he was living with me, had bought a ring, and planned to get engaged. He also said I didn't want him to contact her. She apologized for any misunderstanding and wished him the best of luck with his engagement.
Four months later we ran into his ex at a party. He introduced me as his fiancée and told her we were engaged. This was not true. We were not engaged, but I played along with it. He was obviously flustered seeing her, but she congratulated us.
I was furious with how upset he was. He assured me he loved only me and said he emailed her about our "engagement" in hopes she would stop contacting him. I know this isn't true. I know he contacted her first, when we were on vacation. He showed me the email, and it seemed spiteful. Sort of, "Ha, ha, I am getting married."
I also never told him he couldn't contact her. We never even discussed it. Recently, two weeks before his 40th birthday, we got engaged. I am 35. I am upset he contacted her at all and lied about us being engaged before we actually were. Am I overreacting?
