Post by Linda on Jun 9, 2014 9:33:59 GMT -5
Hello JustUs,
I have a simple yet complex problem. I pray you can help me with this. My "boyfriend" and I have been seeing one another for almost a year. My family, friends, and even coworkers are familiar with him. I have met only one person in his life and that is his brother. Our meeting wasn't planned. In fact, we all just ran into each other. As usual, he gave the same introduction as I've heard him say over the phone, "This is Linda, the lady I've told you about." What am I to think of this?
What I do know is we do spend most our time together and I don't believe he's involved with anyone else. He takes good care of me and makes sure we talk throughout the day (because he knows I like that). He's always home on time for dinner and takes me out every weekend. I've never felt disrespected or second place. He shows concern about my health, feelings, etc. BUT no words of affection (unless it's in agreement to something I may say). JustUs? according to Steve Harvey's book, if a man isn't claiming you to his friends and family....then you're not what he's fishing for. He is a good man and I'm so happy to have him in my life and feel we could really go somewhere.....marriage...children... growing old together....
What am I to do? I really do care for him but if I'm wasting my time...I'd rather not put myself through the pain of being with someone who doesn't want more with me. I don't want to rush him but I just want to know where he's going with me. How can I address this?
I have a simple yet complex problem. I pray you can help me with this. My "boyfriend" and I have been seeing one another for almost a year. My family, friends, and even coworkers are familiar with him. I have met only one person in his life and that is his brother. Our meeting wasn't planned. In fact, we all just ran into each other. As usual, he gave the same introduction as I've heard him say over the phone, "This is Linda, the lady I've told you about." What am I to think of this?
What I do know is we do spend most our time together and I don't believe he's involved with anyone else. He takes good care of me and makes sure we talk throughout the day (because he knows I like that). He's always home on time for dinner and takes me out every weekend. I've never felt disrespected or second place. He shows concern about my health, feelings, etc. BUT no words of affection (unless it's in agreement to something I may say). JustUs? according to Steve Harvey's book, if a man isn't claiming you to his friends and family....then you're not what he's fishing for. He is a good man and I'm so happy to have him in my life and feel we could really go somewhere.....marriage...children... growing old together....
What am I to do? I really do care for him but if I'm wasting my time...I'd rather not put myself through the pain of being with someone who doesn't want more with me. I don't want to rush him but I just want to know where he's going with me. How can I address this?
