Post by NC Techy on Jan 12, 2014 4:55:47 GMT -5
Hello 4JusUs,
I have a friend who recommended this site to me and I just want to start off by saying what a wonderful job you all are doing so far. I wanted to also take advantage of your truth telling abilities on a situation I'm privately dealing with.
For the past 10yrs I've been going back and forth with my wife. She'll leave me one month and return within the next 2months. If she isn't with the deacon of our old church, then it's because she doesn't feel I'm taking care of her the way she deserves. I've come to the conclusion she isn't in love with me but what I can do for her. I think she loves the deacon (who is also married), but he won't keep her or leave his wife for her. When things sour with the deacon, she comes running back to me. If I know this, then I'm sure you're asking WHY do I accept her back? I can't really answer that question but to say how I've always felt marriage was sacred and holy. The Bible says God is married to the church and we ALL know how backsliding we can be as his church. So how can I be so dismissive? Of course I still love her and want us to be a healthy family for our son, but I'm beginning to feel angry. Sometimes at God for not keening my ability to see the red flags, most times at her for doing me like she does, and completely at me for just being drunk in love. What do you feel or suggest about my situation?
I consider myself to have a decent living in programming and networking business communications. I have a nice 3 bedroom home in the suburbs of N.C. and I'm a God-fearing faithful man and loving father.
I have a friend who recommended this site to me and I just want to start off by saying what a wonderful job you all are doing so far. I wanted to also take advantage of your truth telling abilities on a situation I'm privately dealing with.
For the past 10yrs I've been going back and forth with my wife. She'll leave me one month and return within the next 2months. If she isn't with the deacon of our old church, then it's because she doesn't feel I'm taking care of her the way she deserves. I've come to the conclusion she isn't in love with me but what I can do for her. I think she loves the deacon (who is also married), but he won't keep her or leave his wife for her. When things sour with the deacon, she comes running back to me. If I know this, then I'm sure you're asking WHY do I accept her back? I can't really answer that question but to say how I've always felt marriage was sacred and holy. The Bible says God is married to the church and we ALL know how backsliding we can be as his church. So how can I be so dismissive? Of course I still love her and want us to be a healthy family for our son, but I'm beginning to feel angry. Sometimes at God for not keening my ability to see the red flags, most times at her for doing me like she does, and completely at me for just being drunk in love. What do you feel or suggest about my situation?
I consider myself to have a decent living in programming and networking business communications. I have a nice 3 bedroom home in the suburbs of N.C. and I'm a God-fearing faithful man and loving father.
