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Post by Sheryl on Jan 14, 2014 6:34:54 GMT -5
Dear Justus,
I was married to my soul mate for more than 31 years. He passed away three years ago. I stayed by his side 24 hours a day for 21 months while he fought for his life against a malignant brain tumor. We had a great marriage, and I'm thankful I was able to be there for him. I'll never get over missing or loving him.
I'm 54 and healthy, and decided not to wear black and mourn for the rest of my life. Three months ago, I married a man with whom I had become good friends at church during the last year and a half. We actually dated for only a month, but we knew each other well enough to know that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together.
The problem is my two adult children. They have become greedy and demanding. They're afraid I'm going to leave all of "Dad's" retirement to my new husband. They refer to my house as "Dad's" house. I have explained to them that it is mine. I gave them what he specified in his will, and then some. My daughter even demanded to see my will -- which I told her she could see after I die.
My daughter has asked me not to call her house anymore. Was it wrong of me to go on with my life?
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Post by JustUs on Jan 14, 2014 11:23:03 GMT -5
Hello Mrs.Sheryl,
If your husband has past on, then it's OK to get married again. What you must remember and understand is their daddy is all your children know and have understood for over 31 years, their lifetime. It is your house but this is the house they grew up in, once calling home. Don't really think they will ever stop having mixed feelings about that. As far as the money, they don't mind you having access more so then a free loader coming through making you feel good just to live off their daddy's funds. I suggest you make them feel comfortable with your new situation by making them feel comfortable with the man, your new husband. You can do this by meeting in mutual places and/or by showing them that this man has his own possessions and your relationship is about love and not their daddy's money. Perhaps you should also discuss his take on how he feels concerning your dealings with the children. Is he supportive and expresses to you that the "possessions" and "funds" are not his concern or does he have another view? Just something to think about.
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